There's no shortage of porn on the Internet, but it's hard to find something you actually
want
to watch. On a lot of free sites, it often feels like you have to wade
through video after video (and pop-up after pop-up) of people degrading,
insulting, and violating women before you can find decent porn sites
for women. Given what a task that is, it's no wonder more men than women still watch porn. But this is changing, thanks to the rise of porn for women.
Finding hot masturbation material should not come at the cost of
feeling like an object (unless that is specifically what you're looking
for—and even then it can be done in a feminist way).
Much of the best porn for women isn't free, but a lot of free porn isn't produced ethically.
Paying for porn is not only going to be safer for your computer, but it
makes the entire industry more female-friendly for the performers
and the viewers.
Here
are some porn sites to check out if you're looking for female
empowerment, mutually respectful sex, and lots of content to help get
you off:
Cindy Gallop created this site
to show real sex among real people, not actors doing things that don't
represent how sex happens IRL. Couples submit videos of themselves
having sex, which you can rent for $5, and half of the money will go to
the stars themselves. "We are not porn—porn is performance (often an
exceedingly delicious performance, but a performance nonetheless)," its
website reads. "We are not 'amateur'—a label that implies that the only
people doing it right are the professionals and the rest of us are
bumbling idiots. (Honey, please.)" We love that attitude. And these
vids.
This
award-winning queer porn site provides "real dyke porn, lesbians, femme
on femme, boi, stud, genderqueer and trans-masculine performers,
transwomen, transmen, queer men and women engaging in authentic queer
sexuality, whether it is with safer sex, strap-on sex, cocksucking, kink
and BDSM, gender play and fluidity, and always authentic orgasms." You
can become a member (which lets you stream all the videos) for $9.99 to
$25 a month.
Erika Lust, a filmmaker who explained why porn can be feminist in
this great TED Talk,
gives us porn videos—made largely by female directors—that show all of
the passion, "intimacy, love, and lust in sex," where "the feminine
viewpoint is vital, the aesthetic is a pleasure to all of the senses,
and eroticism and innovation are celebrated." She also accepts viewer
"confessions," which she turns into videos for her XConfessions series.
You can watch Lust's work for $16.66 to $34.95 a month.
Instead
of your standard video format, this site features GIFs for quick, free
consumption of "palpable desire, unbridled passion, and body-positive
eroticism." It also offers sex-toy reviews, a NSFW coloring book, and
other resources from sex educator Elle Chase.
The
"female-friendly" sections of mainstream porn sites are often just
proof of how low our standards are. Anything where a woman feels a
modicum of genuine pleasure tends to get categorized this way, even when
the images overall are clearly geared toward straight men. But Dane
Jones' videos are some of the best options you'll find under this
category. They're sensual, romantic, and focused on the women involved
(though they tend to have shots that linger on men's bodies as well).
You can become a member for around $20 to $30 a month, but many videos
are free.
The
women-run Indie Porn Revolution—formerly known as nofauxxx.com—is
committed to involving a diverse array of actors, showing safe sex (a
rarity in porn), and casting frequently typecast people in
nonstereotypical roles. Membership is $16.67 to $20 a month.
"Ms.
Naughty," the filmmaker behind this production company, calls it "a
deliberate attempt to show all the good stuff that we love about
sex—intimacy, laughter, connection, and real pleasure." The videos
feature the silly, awkward side of sex as well as the hot and steamy
side. The camera zooms in on men just as much as it does on women, and
the scenes focus on the buildup of sexual tension couples experience
before sex, so you can
feel the heat rising. To see beyond the previews, you have to pay $28.22 for the first month and then $12.24 a month after that.
Listen
to enough fake porn moans and you can start to wonder what real people
actually sound like when they're masturbating or having sex.
Fortunately, this site clears all that up. For no cost at all, you can
listen to dozens of audio recordings of masturbation sessions. Some
include dirty talk aimed at pleasing the listener, and others include
entertaining attempts to count backward from 100 to 0.
The feminist sex-toy store Good Vibrations makes an effort to cater to women's diverse desires, and
its video collection
is no exception. You can search specifically for feminist porn,
women-directed films, and even sex-ed guides—something very needed in a
world where way too many people learn everything they know from some
pretty unrealistic porn. You can pay per minute or rent each video for
$5 to $10.
At
Bellesa, women can easily access sexual content that is true to how
they see themselves—as subjects of pleasure, not objects of conquest.
It’s not just about the porn, though. They’re a platform that is aimed
at helping women fulfill their desires, share intimate and erotic
stories, and even engage in a community with other like-minded women
looking to freely express their sexuality on the Internet. If you want
to try your hand at erotica stories, you can submit your content here,
or you can simply browse through their women-friendly porn, whether
you’re looking for something sensual, passionate, or, dare we say, even a
little rough.
This
female-founded app is that is aimed at creating elevated feminist
audio—think Audible for erotica—that allows you to find a sexy story for
whatever situation you’re in. You can search for audio porn to listen
to alone in bed for a solo session; stories perfect to listen to before a
date to get you into a flirty headspace; even erotic stories
appropriate for listening to on your commute home to help you switch off
from a day at the office. Dipsea’s stories feature a broad range of
preferences, perspectives, and interests, and they’re fun, safe, and
full of enthusiastic content that prioritizes female pleasure. You can
subscribe for $47.99 per year, which is less than $4 a month.
Sexuality
is a spectrum, and the best porn should reflect that. SPIT’s queer porn
collection nails it on two levels, showcasing different types of
content—videos, photos, and erotica—which showcase a variety of
experiences. Its content is developed ethically, and the company is
dedicated to creating consensual, equitable, and intersectional feminist
spaces in the sex industry. That’s definitely a great reason to join
for $19.65 per month.
Reddit
isn’t always the friendliest place for women, but on the r/chickfixxx
subreddit you can find women posting their favorite female-friendly
X-rated videos. You can even make requests—if your tastes are more
specific or you’re looking for a particular kind of video, it may just
be easier to ask your fellow sexperts here instead of browsing for
hours. You are most definitely welcome.
For
porn on the artistic side (yes, it’s a thing and it’s great), check out
the photography and short films on A Four Chambered Heart.
Unsurprisingly, some of the stills are pretty enough to hang up on your
walls—if you’re not too busy getting off to them, that is.
Images
and audio are great, but sometimes there’s nothing better than reading
some good old-fashioned erotica. Literotica isn’t your grandma’s
scandalous paperback, however. The free resource provides some of the
hottest erotic fiction and fantasy on the Internet from a variety of
authors and points of view. Its standards for stories are high, so you
can be sure that the stories featured here are, ahem, quite useful.
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